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I believe you are so much bigger than your struggle with food is allowing for. I know that emotional eating has shown up in your life as a means to keep you safe and small.
But you my love are destined to take up space in the world.
Can you resonate with any of the below?
- Are you constantly judging yourself for your bizarre eating patterns?
- Do you see yourself as a problem to be fixed?
- Do you over-analyze everything (especially yourself)?
- Are you a perfectionist with ridiculously high standards?
- Do you find yourself planning out every meal (and every other thing)?
- Are you constantly saying “I should eat/do this” or “I should eat/do that”?
- Do you find yourself struggling with food sensitivities and digestive issues?
- Are you extremely self-aware with a deep inner world?
- Do you find yourself hiding and eating to cope with the shame of hiding?
- Do you feel lonely with a deep desire to connect with people?
- Are you whirling in bouts of depression but too conscientious to let anyone know?
I totally get what this feels like…
I used to say “no” to everything.
I would avoid social gatherings, dinner with friends, and even family get togethers. I wanted to go, I so badly wanted to connect; it just felt too hard.
On the rare occasion I did decide to exit my alone zone, I would ruminate about every detail for hours, maybe even days afterwards. Did I say the right thing, wear the right thing, act the right way?
I desperately wanted to be around people without worrying about what they thought of me; it just seemed impossible.
I used to look at other women and wonder why I could not be more like them. Comparing myself was my barometer for feeling okay. It led to a constant state of jealousy and a permanent sense of feeling not smart/attractive/thin/outgoing/fill in the blank enough.
My existence was a lonely one. Outwardly I looked independent, but inwardly I felt completely insane.
I yearned to go through the day without compulsively eating or obsessively thinking about every damn thing.
Being alone, anxious, and addicted was all I knew.
Looking back, I see that I was doing the very best I could with the knowledge I had. We are all doing the very best we can with what know. Remember this.
If you are reading this now and resonate, know that I would love to share with you everything I have discovered on my path to healing. Given my immense knowledge of the highly sensitive trait, I am certain I can guide you to a place of freedom. I promise there is a way of living life where we are not overrun with anxiety and addiction.
KATE’S COACHING PHILOSOPHY:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Mayou Angelou
Having sat through countless unsympathetic therapy sessions where the over arching goal was to “fix” my brokenness, I know that this approach does not work well for the highly sensitive person. If anything, it keeps us whirling in analysis of ourselves while preventing us from actually living. I know you are not broken. I know exactly where you are and I will meet you right there. No judging, no fixing.